Dating Mistake: Assuming Men Will Always Pay For Dinner
Posted on 26. Mar, 2011 by Christopher in Archive, Dating
Has chivalry gone or is the economy just that bad? Are men just complete deadbeats that expect to go dutch on dates these days? Not really, but you should be ready to pony up. Why? Here’s what 1,000 men had to say about paying for dinner on a date:
60% said Yes
18% said No
22% said “It depends”
The 22% was the interesting number for us. What are the conditions for men where “it depends?” Turns out there is some decent feedback as to why:
“It depends. Did I ask her out, then yes. If she asked me out, I’ll probably pay or go in on it with her, but she should be ready to pay. Especially if the date sucks.” – Joe, 32
“If I’ve been seeing her for awhile, I’m not the ATM, she should pay as often as I do. It’s only fair. If it’s at the start of a relationship, she should be prepared to pay or pay half” – Larry, 41
“Hey, they [women] have just as much money as I do these days. They can pay when I can’t.” – Rob, 28
The men that stated ‘no’ also had some interesting feedback. Why would they not pay? What are the conditions where they wouldn’t pay for dinner? Here’s a sample from this group of guys:
“Women ask me out all the time. If they ask, they pay. That’s just the way of the world these days.” – Dominic, 27
“Whatever the reason I go out with women, I make it a point not to do dinner unless she asks me. If she asks me more than likely she’ll be paying. I do the same thing.” – Tony, 24
So there you have it. Most men still pay for dates and the data showed us they really don’t mind paying. Perhaps it’s an ego thing? Maybe the more male ego saying “I am man and I pay.” That’s fine too. It looks like men paying as a dating standard is still in play. But, with the advances women have made in the workplace, with money and with the confidence of asking men out, there are a number of men that are OK with having women buy dinner for them. So ladies, best to have the men ask you out, but be prepared to pay or pay half. (Even if it’s only to pay to get out of there on a bad date.)
I think who ever asjes who out, should pay the tab. If he askes me out – he better pay because I would pay if i asked him. None of that dutch stuff unless we have been a relationship for awhile. Then it makes sense to split the cost of things.