Relationship Mistake: Guys don’t like women to have guy friends
Posted on 17. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Ladies, you all have friends. I’m going to guess a mix of both men and women, but chances are the friends you predominantly hang out with are your female friends, especially if you are in a relationship. Chances are you do this either because you are more comfortable hanging out with women or because your guy is more comfortable with you hanging out with women. We asked 1,000 guys, why do guys find it difficult to accept that his wife/girlfriend hangs out with other guys?
Let’s cover the smaller numbers first, 6% of guys say it’s not difficult and that they don’t care and 12% say it’s a control issue and they just like to be the only male their significant other spends time with.
Now on to the bigger numbers, 40% of guys are afraid of their wife/girlfriend becoming more than friends and ending up cheating on them.
“1- Other men are a threat
2- Men have difficulty with plutonic relationships, often secretly coveting the “friend.” They assume other men feel the same way towards their wife.” – Age: 33
“Because we are only social with women we are sexually interested in.” – Age: 26
And the majority of guys (42%) are just plain jealous.
“They are jealous over the fact that another male gets to spend time with his wife. This means he does love her and does not want to lose her to another man.” – Age: 20
“They get jealous. It’s stupid, but it’s true.” – Age: 30
So ladies, best bet is to talk to your guy about how they feel about your guy friends and come to an understanding of where they stand on the issue and how to resolve any worries he may have.
I want to thank you for this GREAT piece of information. I thought he was not that into me until I read the part of him being jealous of my guy friends. Each and every part of it was what he did, may have felt, and feared!!!
I love this man (R.G.) so much…. Now I understand what made him push away. I don’t know how to get him back and let him know he is the only one I want….
Hunnybunny40
Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
It therefore follows if its all innocent keep it open. Let your man know he is special. Having said all that if your man is insecure you have a mountain to climb.
First of all, you need to trust your chosen to be faithful to you. If she can’t do that, then maybe shes not for you. Besides that, if you feel insecure you really need to talk to us about it! In my case, I just don’t get along very well with women so most of the time I hang with the guys. If you’re uncomfortable with that, tell your girlfriend/wife and maybe you could go out with her when shes going out with the guys until you get comfortable with them. besides, don’t they say to keep your friends close and your enemies closer? Make friends with the “competition” and keep an eye on ‘em. The biggest mistakes you can make are to tell her she can’t, get into angry fits, ask too many questions to make her feel you don’t trust her, or anything else of the sort.
Thank you for this wonderful info. I love my man alot and on d other side I have a lot me guys friends they are just ordinary buddies who use to hang out. Honestly they bunch of my friends they do have propose to me even I do have serious bf and I just tell them tat I cant coz im so in love wit my man. I never hide things from my bf. I tell him everything coz I dun like to keep things. So trust, faith, honest, respect, love and loyal.