Relationship Mistake: Guys can’t be friends with their exes
Posted on 08. May, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Most breakups aren’t pretty. They’re bitter, mean, and downright cold, but sometimes if you are lucky you have an amicable split. What happens when you both decide to go your separate ways? We asked 1,000 guys, can you remain friends and still like your ex after you break up?
Surprisingly, 76% of guys feel that they can remain friends after a breakup.
“When I break up with a girl, I can still like her. Sometimes the reason for break-up doesn’t necessarily mean it’s because you don’t like them. An example may include distance (as when either party moves to a different place).” – Frank, 22
“It’s absolutely possible to still like her. Sometimes, I’ve found that maybe I had jumped the gun getting into a relationship and found out shortly after that we could be good friends but not compatible as boyfriend/girlfriend. So it’s possible to still like them and care for them but, if the feeling isn’t mutual or one person wants more out of it than the other, then friendship will never work after a break up.” – Nathan, 29
16% of guys do not think it’s possible to remain friends.
“No I never have. After breaking up with a girl, it becomes impossible for me to deal with the fact that she is with another guy. That is really hard on the male ego.” – Scott, 44
“No, you can only like a girl if you can have sex with her.” – Joe, 21
A small percentage, 8%, feel it depends on the breakup on whether or not you can remain friends after.
”I think you can but it really depends on the situation and the circumstances of the breakup. If I broke up with a girl over something bad then probably not but if it was because we were moving in different directions or because of distance then I would probably still like her.” – Andy, 26
So, just because a relationship is over, doesn’t mean the friendship is over. Sometimes you just weren’t compatible as a couple, but you can remain friends for years to come.
It depends if he try to keep me in a bondage situation if we broke up because he don’t want a relationship with me and I already had sex and all of sudden he wants out but want to have friends with benifits
The comment prior to mine is a horribly pathetic attempt to construct a sentence. Credibility gone!
It’s also a pathetic attempt to find justification for her actions from strangers on the internet… disgusting.