Do You Make These Mistakes With Men?

Relationship Mistake: Women can act a certain way to get guys to be less commitment phobic.

Posted on 13. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships

Commitments are a tricky thing. Some guys want them and some don’t. So if you have a guy, can you change his way of thinking? We asked 1,000 guys, what should women do to get guys to be less commitment phobic?

Let’s go down the line of categories and see why guys think what they do. 34% of guys think you shouldn’t pressure them into a commitment.

“Don’t be too insistent on moving forward in a relationship, make him comfortable with your relationship and ease into the important transitions smoothly. Allow him to feel he has a measure of control, just not more than you’re comfortable with.” – Age 24

“Play things by ear more. Don’t discuss commitments too early in the relationship. Don’t lay down ultimatums or you will chase us off.” – Age 35

Some guys (28%) think you should either do nothing or just give him space and he’ll come around.

“Allow men to enjoy freedoms and relationships they enjoy. Women should make comments about the importance of spending time apart so other friendships are maintained.” – Age 42

“I really don’t think there is anything that ‘women’ can do, but there is something ‘society’ can do. What can be done is to begin making these important things important again, make them something that is expected and respected instead of laughed at as old fashion.” – Age 34

If you want a guy to come around, try reassuring him that you are the one.

“Tell them that they can love all women through one woman.” – Age 67

12% think that if you are yourself or if you stroke his ego a bit he’ll want to commit.

“It’s either you got it or you don’t. A way to do it the best with man is to be more natural and put less make up on your face. Sometimes makeup changes woman’s features too much and they look to drawn up with makeup and unattractive.” – Age 30

“Insure them that they truly do love them above anyone else, that they don’t want to have to find someone else nor would want too. That they want to spend their lives with us, and not just marry us or leave us.” – Age: 22

And finally, you can either show competence or if all else fails, play hard to get.

“Ensure him that they will not be interfering with his normal “ways” and that he will still be free to be himself. – Age: 22

“Don’t make it all good, and great sex, and then after marriage drop back. This is not all women. They need to show that they are capable of doing things just like their male partner is, instead of relying on them all the time.” – Age: 31

It’s all up to you on which approach you take to try to get a guy to commit. You can try one approach or keep trying different approaches until you find the one that works. Good luck ladies.