Sex Mistake: Guys aren’t honest about the number of sexual partners
Posted on 04. May, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Sex
Sexual partners, we’ve all them; but is the number best kept as a secret? Whether it’s 1, 20, or 40+ (you know who you are ladies), how honest are you when telling your partner and how honest is your partner with you? We asked 1,000 guys, have you ever hidden the actual number of partners you’ve had from your girlfriend/wife?
The results are in and surprisingly (or not), 67% of guys say they will not lie about the number of partners they have been with.
“No, openness is VERY important in a relationship. If it doesn’t come out at the beginning, it will eventually, so save yourself the trouble.” – Andrew, 26
“No, I told my partner the total number of partners when she asked. I was upfront because I wanted my partner to know who I really was. I didn’t want the past to be an issue. I also thought by telling her the number she would understand that I enjoyed sex and it was/is a big part of my life.” – Kevin, 39
Now the 33%, why do guys feel they shouldn’t share the number of partners with their current significant other? Is it because it’s an extremely high number? They want to spare feelings? Or cause they feel it’s a private matter?
“Uh, Yeah. You make that sound “bad” and it’s precisely the reason you probably have troubles with relationships. This fixation of numbers of partners and fidelity is making everyone paranoid these days. Accept your beau has a history and forget about it. Guys (and Gals) shouldn’t play the “here’s a list” game and there are two reasons why you shouldn’t tell your wife/husband the number of sexual partners. A: It’s not really their business (prior activity) and B: It’s not going to make them any happier knowing. Just say “I’m here with you now” and leave it at that!” – Jim, 36
“I have hidden this number. The reason I hid it was because if the number is high and you tell them it sounds bad like you’re a player. If it is to low though, it can be embarrassing.” – Kegan, 23
There you have it ladies, most guys are more than willing to be honest with you if you ask. Just make sure whatever that number may be, that it’s something you are ready to deal with.
