Do You Make These Mistakes With Men?

Dating Mistake: You and a guy totally click, but it takes him forever to contact you again, yet you still keep giving him chances

Posted on 04. Jun, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Dating

So say you meet a guy on an online dating site, you guys totally click and by date three move to the next level (sex…just to clarify). While he still seems interested, it’s been taking him weeks to contact you again, what do you do? Is the connection a strong enough reason to keep giving him a chance? Or is it time to cut your losses and move on?

We asked 1,000 guys what they think and surprisingly (or not) 56% say you should let him go and move on.

“She should go. Obviously he isn’t all that interested if it takes him up to 3 weeks to follow through with their plans. Not saying having sex on the 3rd date is a bad thing but she should have held out a little longer. She should definitely not fight for this guy. If he’s worth fighting for he’ll fight for her.” – Paul, 43

“Sounds like he has something else going on. No point in hanging around, perhaps give him an ultimatum and then gauge his response. Or, just come out and ask him about his intentions. It is definitely time to get ready to possibly walk away if you are unable to deal with him in this capacity.” – Jon, 32

26% of guys think that you should keep trying.

“She could try being more patient and let nature take its course. After 3 dates she shouldn’t be expecting him to buy her a ring. She may want to think about the effects of sleeping men she meets on the internet more carefully.” – Matt, 27

“Are you really that desperate for a relationship, love, marriage, children, and life that you base a breakup on a guy going slow? Come on, cut some slack! Did you have a good time? Was the sex fun? Does he have potential? If yes, keep dating the guy and ENJOY IT. If it works fine, if not that’s fine too. You’re 20…it’s not like you have biological clock ticking. Dating is supposed to be fun, not a job interview.” – John, 45

And last but not least; 18% of guys think you should talk to him before making any decision.

“She should try another time, talk to him seriously and if he is not serious, she should go” – Henri, 29

“I think what she should do is talk to the guy if he really wants him. Don’t put yourself in a position where you just assume that the guy is serious with you or not. Be open and honest with the guy about how he feels about you and if he sees a relationship with you.” – Joseph, 32

Bottom line it’s really up to you to decide if the connection is strong enough to stay around, but maybe in the future, even if you click, you should hold out a little longer to move to the next step.