Dating Mistake: Assuming Men Want To Date Kirstie Alley
Posted on 10. May, 2011 by Christopher in Archive, Dating
We noticed that Kirstie Alley apparently is dating a man some 40 years younger than she is. While we have no opinion one way or another about it, we were curious about this and so we asked 1,000 men: Would you date a woman 40 years older than you? Here’s what they had to say:
79% said No
11% said Yes
10% said “It’s possible”
This is even more interesting when we asked the same 1,000 men about wanting to specifically date Kirstie Alley today (May 10, 2011.) The answers:
87% said No
9% said Yes
4% said “It’s possible.”
Why would the men not want to date Kirstie specifically:
“She looks better now that she’s on ‘Dancing With The Stars’ but she seems like a lunatic. Too much to deal with.” – David, 22
“No way. She seems like a psycho. I don’t think it’s appealing after you said you did it. At some point, you need to be aroused.” – Phil, 25
“It’s not because she’s overweight. You can get by that. It’s that raspy smoker voice that kills it.” – Steven, 23
Note that this was not a weight issue. Men had no real problems with that. The real mistake is assuming that just because Kirstie Alley is famous, rich and on TV that men would want to date her. It looks as though men still need to be with someone that they feel is mentally stable which they cite as more important.
Apparently, Kirstie Alley doesn’t at present, fit the bill for most men.
Dating Mistake: Assuming Men Will Always Pay For Dinner
Posted on 26. Mar, 2011 by Christopher in Archive, Dating
Has chivalry gone or is the economy just that bad? Are men just complete deadbeats that expect to go dutch on dates these days? Not really, but you should be ready to pony up. Why? Here’s what 1,000 men had to say about paying for dinner on a date:
60% said Yes
18% said No
22% said “It depends”
The 22% was the interesting number for us. What are the conditions for men where “it depends?” Turns out there is some decent feedback as to why:
“It depends. Did I ask her out, then yes. If she asked me out, I’ll probably pay or go in on it with her, but she should be ready to pay. Especially if the date sucks.” – Joe, 32
“If I’ve been seeing her for awhile, I’m not the ATM, she should pay as often as I do. It’s only fair. If it’s at the start of a relationship, she should be prepared to pay or pay half” – Larry, 41
“Hey, they [women] have just as much money as I do these days. They can pay when I can’t.” – Rob, 28
The men that stated ‘no’ also had some interesting feedback. Why would they not pay? What are the conditions where they wouldn’t pay for dinner? Here’s a sample from this group of guys:
“Women ask me out all the time. If they ask, they pay. That’s just the way of the world these days.” – Dominic, 27
“Whatever the reason I go out with women, I make it a point not to do dinner unless she asks me. If she asks me more than likely she’ll be paying. I do the same thing.” – Tony, 24
So there you have it. Most men still pay for dates and the data showed us they really don’t mind paying. Perhaps it’s an ego thing? Maybe the more male ego saying “I am man and I pay.” That’s fine too. It looks like men paying as a dating standard is still in play. But, with the advances women have made in the workplace, with money and with the confidence of asking men out, there are a number of men that are OK with having women buy dinner for them. So ladies, best to have the men ask you out, but be prepared to pay or pay half. (Even if it’s only to pay to get out of there on a bad date.)
Dating Mistake: Men Use Facebook For Dating Research
Posted on 20. Sep, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Dating
Online “stalking”, you know you do it, but do guys? We asked 1,000 men, have you ever used Facebook to date, learn about a date, or find women to date? Sorry to break it to you ladies, but only 20% of guys have gone to Facebook to either meet a woman or find out information about her.
So, why do 80% of guys say no? The reasons vary from not wanting to be creepy to finding social media sites to be a privacy concern.
“No, I have never used Facebook to date, learn about a date or find women to date. I can’t stand the idea of using social media networks for privacy reasons and general lack of time.” – Justin, 31
“No, I have never used facebook or any other online thing. I guess I prefer to meet women the old fashioned way, like in a grocery store or something like that.” – Rick, 47
“No, I have not done this and would not do so. I think that using it to look for women makes you seem kind of creepy. As for someone that I’m already going to date, I want to make my own first impression of them without having my mind clouded by what I see online.” – John, 39
What about the 20%? The majority of the guys that have used the site do use it to get information on the girl. Whether it be information about what she likes or find out if she is even worth the effort.
“Yes I met a girl at a bar and wanted to learn more about her so I looked her up on Facebook. Turns out she had a boyfriend and had it posted everywhere. I am glad I found out the truth ahead of time.” – Alex, 40
“I haven’t used it to date or find women but I have used it to see what women are like after our date or to get some background information on them and see what they like to do.” – Andy, 19
“Yes, I use facebook to see if a girl is worth my time. If she seems shallow, or has racy or stupid pictures, I will not pursue a relationship with her.” – Brandon, 25
While pursuing dates online isn’t a common theme with guys, the 20% that do use Facebook for dating reasons feel it’s a valid way to see if the girl is crazy or a good way to find out what they have in common to make the date more interesting. Even though most guys don’t go this route, on the bright side the standard ways to meet a guy is still the way to go.
