Dating Mistake: Men Use Facebook For Dating Research
Posted on 20. Sep, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Dating
Online “stalking”, you know you do it, but do guys? We asked 1,000 men, have you ever used Facebook to date, learn about a date, or find women to date? Sorry to break it to you ladies, but only 20% of guys have gone to Facebook to either meet a woman or find out information about her.
So, why do 80% of guys say no? The reasons vary from not wanting to be creepy to finding social media sites to be a privacy concern.
“No, I have never used Facebook to date, learn about a date or find women to date. I can’t stand the idea of using social media networks for privacy reasons and general lack of time.” – Justin, 31
“No, I have never used facebook or any other online thing. I guess I prefer to meet women the old fashioned way, like in a grocery store or something like that.” – Rick, 47
“No, I have not done this and would not do so. I think that using it to look for women makes you seem kind of creepy. As for someone that I’m already going to date, I want to make my own first impression of them without having my mind clouded by what I see online.” – John, 39
What about the 20%? The majority of the guys that have used the site do use it to get information on the girl. Whether it be information about what she likes or find out if she is even worth the effort.
“Yes I met a girl at a bar and wanted to learn more about her so I looked her up on Facebook. Turns out she had a boyfriend and had it posted everywhere. I am glad I found out the truth ahead of time.” – Alex, 40
“I haven’t used it to date or find women but I have used it to see what women are like after our date or to get some background information on them and see what they like to do.” – Andy, 19
“Yes, I use facebook to see if a girl is worth my time. If she seems shallow, or has racy or stupid pictures, I will not pursue a relationship with her.” – Brandon, 25
While pursuing dates online isn’t a common theme with guys, the 20% that do use Facebook for dating reasons feel it’s a valid way to see if the girl is crazy or a good way to find out what they have in common to make the date more interesting. Even though most guys don’t go this route, on the bright side the standard ways to meet a guy is still the way to go.
Sex Mistake: He’ll love me for me, no matter how I look.
Posted on 12. Aug, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Sex
Surprise, surprise! Men do care how you look. Especially naked. We polled 1,000 men and asked them this question: Do you care how a woman’s body looks once you’ve seen her naked? Here’s what they said:
The guys weren’t even subtle about it. A resounding 71% said yes. Only 29% said no. But men on both sides had reasons they felt strongly about. Sure, many men provided the typical, superficial reasoning you might expect. Here’s a sampling:
“Yes, of course. Like it or not, how a woman looks naked partially determines how good the sex is. – Collin, single, age 32
“Yes, I’m very visual and a woman must look good naked.” –Jason, married, age 36
“Yes, because that first appearance can make or break a relationship in a sexual manner. The better the body the better the sex the better the relationship.” –Josh, married, age 21.
“Yes absolutely! If it’s a great body, I’ll be dreaming of it no matter if she’s wearing clothes, naked, or even not in the room!” –Matt, single, age 27.
While most men said a definitive ‘yes’, many had more concrete, intellectual reasons why they said so. We found this sampling the most interesting because of all of the justifications they had:
“Yes. Most men don’t operate with a ‘Seeing a woman naked one time is the end-all be-all’ mindset. Physical attraction–for both sexes–is a constant process. People age, gain/lose weight, etc. Plus, contrary to what women might think, not all men are simply on a quest to see as many naked women as possible. It’s not like we see a woman naked and think, ‘Ok, done with her, onto the next one.’”—Anthony, single, age 27
“Yes because I like a woman who takes care of herself or at least is showing an effort to take care of herself. She doesn’t necessarily need to have a coke bottle figure. As a matter of fact I like an average sized women with some nice hips and a nice butt. Breast size doesn’t matter to me. I like breasts in all shapes and sizes.”—Stephen, single, age 31
“Yes. A man always wants a woman to look good. Especially if they are together for a long period of time. If a woman lets herself go after a time it only makes the man wonder what else is out there.”—Dan, married, age 31.
There were also men that said no, it really didn’t matter to them. While they were definitely in the minority of opinion, they too had very valid reasons:
“I’m not sure if you mean “once the mystery has been revealed”, but it’s nice seeing someone you’re attracted without their clothes on. Nobody has a perfect body (almost nobody), so it doesn’t matter that much how they look. It’s a turn on before you see it and it’s still a turn on after you’ve seen it a hundred times.”—Mitch, single, age 41
“No. As the saying goes, beauty is only skin deep. What counts is the person, not the body.”—Mike, married, age 52.
So ladies, looks matter.
Yes, it’s unfair. Yes, it’s stereotypical. Men are simple creatures that are visual beings. (It’s the same simplicity that make them notice you in the first place.) Men preferring women that look good is not something that can be debated or ignored. It should be embraced and accommodated to the degree that you can. It’s akin to what men must embrace and accommodate for women.
Like the notion that lifting the toilet seat isn’t an option.
Dating Mistake: Dating a guy that might or might not be married.
Posted on 30. Jun, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Dating
You meet a guy, you two hit it off, and he says he’s single, but is he really? We asked 1,000 guys, how can a woman truly tell if a guy is married or not?
The majority of men (48%) say his behavior will give him away. Does he act nervous? Does he make plans in advance? What other things little things throw off warning signals…
“If he always has to be home at a certain time and never takes you to his house or to meet his friends. Those are signs that a woman is just a fling on the side.” – Antonio, 25
“Aside from the obvious ring, does he frequently make phone calls away from you? He may not be married per se but may be involved with someone else or something that he does not want you to find out about.” – Brad, 25
“Time, time and time. Married life is very time consuming and normally requires weekends, evenings and holidays. If the man is avoiding those times with you, it means he has something else to do and that something is usually his family.” – JC, 45
Other ways to tell is to just go to his house unexpectedly. 22% of guys say this is the best way to figure out if a guy is hiding something. However, be prepared to come off as a bit of a stalker if you are staking out your guy or following him home.
“Follow him to his home and conduct adequate surveillance to make this determination if you absolutely must be certain about a man’s marital status; that is if you can’t trust what he says.” – Jay, 30
“Visit his home on several occasions and at different times of the day.” – Edward, 27
When reading the signs doesn’t work and stalking just isn’t up your alley you can be upfront about it and ask him (14% of guys say this is the way to go) or check for the obvious ring tan line (10% of guys say this is the way to tell).
“By asking him directly and hoping for the best.” – Justin, 30
“If he tries to hide his ring finger, he is married.” – Jeff, 25
Ladies, it’s really up to you to figure out the best way to find out if a guy is married. If you think he is, maybe the best bet is to just walk away because if you don’t trust him now, how will you be a couple months or years down the road.
