Relationship Mistake: Guys can’t be friends with their exes
Posted on 08. May, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Most breakups aren’t pretty. They’re bitter, mean, and downright cold, but sometimes if you are lucky you have an amicable split. What happens when you both decide to go your separate ways? We asked 1,000 guys, can you remain friends and still like your ex after you break up?
Surprisingly, 76% of guys feel that they can remain friends after a breakup.
“When I break up with a girl, I can still like her. Sometimes the reason for break-up doesn’t necessarily mean it’s because you don’t like them. An example may include distance (as when either party moves to a different place).” – Frank, 22
“It’s absolutely possible to still like her. Sometimes, I’ve found that maybe I had jumped the gun getting into a relationship and found out shortly after that we could be good friends but not compatible as boyfriend/girlfriend. So it’s possible to still like them and care for them but, if the feeling isn’t mutual or one person wants more out of it than the other, then friendship will never work after a break up.” – Nathan, 29
16% of guys do not think it’s possible to remain friends.
“No I never have. After breaking up with a girl, it becomes impossible for me to deal with the fact that she is with another guy. That is really hard on the male ego.” – Scott, 44
“No, you can only like a girl if you can have sex with her.” – Joe, 21
A small percentage, 8%, feel it depends on the breakup on whether or not you can remain friends after.
”I think you can but it really depends on the situation and the circumstances of the breakup. If I broke up with a girl over something bad then probably not but if it was because we were moving in different directions or because of distance then I would probably still like her.” – Andy, 26
So, just because a relationship is over, doesn’t mean the friendship is over. Sometimes you just weren’t compatible as a couple, but you can remain friends for years to come.
Relationship Mistake: Living together before marriage is a bad idea
Posted on 30. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
In this day and age relationship standards aren’t what they used to be. Guys aren’t always the one asking for a date, women don’t wait by the phone for a call, and couples don’t wait until marriage to live together. Now, just cause couples live together before they are married, does it mean it’s a good idea? We asked 1,000 guys, do you prefer to live with a woman prior to marriage?
Lo and behold, 68% of guys say they prefer to live with a woman before they get married. The reasons behind it are pretty similar among all guys.
“Yes, to get to know her and to experience daily life with her. Just because we click doesn’t mean we can survive each other 24/7.” – Daniel, 23
“Yes. You get a better idea of who each person is. You get to experience how they are on bad mornings, good days, how they can handle issues their whole personality and their way of living. Things can be covered up very easy and be very disturbing once revealed.” – Fred, 36
“It might be advisable to try living with one another prior to marriage as it presents an opportunity to test the relationship in a very intimate context without actually being married.” – Jake, 30
Now, for the other 32%…some guys (26%) say they want to wait until marriage to live together. The reasons on why guys feel you should wait to live together vary between guys.
“No I will not prefer to live with a woman because we loss the excitement and attraction between them if we live together.” – Navidhesh, 42
“No, because that makes the life boring after marriage” – Pan, 26
“No, because according to our culture it is not good.” – Renjith, 26
The other 6% of guys were indifferent and don’t think it matters either way. Times change ladies and if you want to test the waters before marriage then you should live together first, but if you are up for the surprise of living together, then wait until you are married to find out each other’s quirks.
Relationship Mistake: Guys get irritated with in-laws/girlfriend’s parents
Posted on 30. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Family…it’s not something that you get to choose, you’re either born into a family or you marry into one. Either way, you’re usually stuck with them. So, how does your guy feel about your family? We asked 1,000 guys, does your wife’s/girlfriend’s family irritate you?
Surprisingly (or not), 72% of guys say that their wife’s/girlfriend’s parents do not bother them at all. In some cases, guys liked them better than their own family.
“No, actually I like my wife’s family quite a bit more than my own family! We don’t see them very often, but when we do get together it is a lot of fun.” – Alex, 32
“Honestly, I don’t think wife’s family irritates me any more than my own family does.” – Jake, 30
“No, I really like my girlfriend’s parents, almost more than my own family, actually. We do get along very well.” – Ray, 42
Now, for the other 28%, guys find the parents irritating for a variety of reasons, from not being considered good enough to constant meddling to not being included.
“Yes. Very much. They do not include me in anything family related. They feel that when my girlfriend wants to do something for me or with me, that I’m controlling her. They want everything my gf and I do, to do with them. They purposely make food I don’t like (and they know it), speak in German around me all the time so I can’t understand what’s going on or become involved in the conversation. They are always making me feel like my gf & I do not belong together.” – Fred, 36
“Sometime my girlfriend’s family irritates me, because I am never going to be good enough for their daughter in their eyes. I just accept it. I am sure my family annoys her as well. As long as I am with my girlfriend things will be o.k.” – Kevin, 37
“Sometimes, if they always want to know about everything in our life.” – Luke, 31
There you have it ladies, the majority of guys like your parents. And for those that don’t, they usually have a reason on why they might get irritated with them. If you really want to know, ask your guy how he feels and why.
