Relationship Mistake: Guys don’t like women to have guy friends
Posted on 17. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Ladies, you all have friends. I’m going to guess a mix of both men and women, but chances are the friends you predominantly hang out with are your female friends, especially if you are in a relationship. Chances are you do this either because you are more comfortable hanging out with women or because your guy is more comfortable with you hanging out with women. We asked 1,000 guys, why do guys find it difficult to accept that his wife/girlfriend hangs out with other guys?
Let’s cover the smaller numbers first, 6% of guys say it’s not difficult and that they don’t care and 12% say it’s a control issue and they just like to be the only male their significant other spends time with.
Now on to the bigger numbers, 40% of guys are afraid of their wife/girlfriend becoming more than friends and ending up cheating on them.
“1- Other men are a threat
2- Men have difficulty with plutonic relationships, often secretly coveting the “friend.” They assume other men feel the same way towards their wife.” – Age: 33
“Because we are only social with women we are sexually interested in.” – Age: 26
And the majority of guys (42%) are just plain jealous.
“They are jealous over the fact that another male gets to spend time with his wife. This means he does love her and does not want to lose her to another man.” – Age: 20
“They get jealous. It’s stupid, but it’s true.” – Age: 30
So ladies, best bet is to talk to your guy about how they feel about your guy friends and come to an understanding of where they stand on the issue and how to resolve any worries he may have.
Relationship Mistake: Women can act a certain way to get guys to be less commitment phobic.
Posted on 13. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Commitments are a tricky thing. Some guys want them and some don’t. So if you have a guy, can you change his way of thinking? We asked 1,000 guys, what should women do to get guys to be less commitment phobic?
Let’s go down the line of categories and see why guys think what they do. 34% of guys think you shouldn’t pressure them into a commitment.
“Don’t be too insistent on moving forward in a relationship, make him comfortable with your relationship and ease into the important transitions smoothly. Allow him to feel he has a measure of control, just not more than you’re comfortable with.” – Age 24
“Play things by ear more. Don’t discuss commitments too early in the relationship. Don’t lay down ultimatums or you will chase us off.” – Age 35
Some guys (28%) think you should either do nothing or just give him space and he’ll come around.
“Allow men to enjoy freedoms and relationships they enjoy. Women should make comments about the importance of spending time apart so other friendships are maintained.” – Age 42
“I really don’t think there is anything that ‘women’ can do, but there is something ‘society’ can do. What can be done is to begin making these important things important again, make them something that is expected and respected instead of laughed at as old fashion.” – Age 34
If you want a guy to come around, try reassuring him that you are the one.
“Tell them that they can love all women through one woman.” – Age 67
12% think that if you are yourself or if you stroke his ego a bit he’ll want to commit.
“It’s either you got it or you don’t. A way to do it the best with man is to be more natural and put less make up on your face. Sometimes makeup changes woman’s features too much and they look to drawn up with makeup and unattractive.” – Age 30
“Insure them that they truly do love them above anyone else, that they don’t want to have to find someone else nor would want too. That they want to spend their lives with us, and not just marry us or leave us.” – Age: 22
And finally, you can either show competence or if all else fails, play hard to get.
“Ensure him that they will not be interfering with his normal “ways” and that he will still be free to be himself. – Age: 22
“Don’t make it all good, and great sex, and then after marriage drop back. This is not all women. They need to show that they are capable of doing things just like their male partner is, instead of relying on them all the time.” – Age: 31
It’s all up to you on which approach you take to try to get a guy to commit. You can try one approach or keep trying different approaches until you find the one that works. Good luck ladies. 
Relationship Mistake: All guys are afraid to commit.
Posted on 09. Mar, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Realtionships
Alright ladies, let’s talk about commitment and your perception of guys and commitment. Women think all guys are afraid of commitment and think that fear is just ingrained in their DNA or something. Well ladies, that is not true. We asked 1,000 guys, why are guys afraid of commitment?
So, 50% of guys are just plain afraid of commitment. They’re not ready to lose out on finding the perfect woman.
“Because men think that something better may come along and they don’t want to settle for one woman. Also, men are hunters by nature and need more than one prey to hunt.” – Age: 67
“Because of the romantic delusion that a perfect, ideal, almost deified woman is just around the corner.” – Age: 33
18% of guys are not ready for the responsibilities that come with a commitment and aren’t ready to lose their sense of freedom.
“Men are commitment phobic because we are afraid of not being in control. By committing yourself to someone you lose this control. This vulnerability scares us, so instead of committing we find ways to back out of this commitment.” – Age: 21
“They don’t like commitments. It signals the end of fun and freedom.” – Age: 30
Only 8% of guys admitted to being afraid of getting hurt. Guys have been hurt in the past too ladies, it’s not just women who are afraid of getting their heart broken again.
“Men act that way because they are afraid of getting dumped. They may have had bad experiences during several relationships. Another reason some men are uncertain if they are making the right choice.” – Age: 46
“We worry about women leaving us. We become too attached and worry that in the end we’ll end up being hurt.” – Age: 22
Finally, there are those that aren’t afraid of commitment. 24% of guys say that it’s either media’s perception of men that makes women think they are or it’s a women pushing too hard for a commitment and that guy might just not be that into her.
“I do not think men are commitment phobic. This is a stereotype that is perpetuated by mainstream media. Men and women are equally likely to be afraid of commitment.” – Age: 22
“Maybe it’s not that men are commitment phobic, but that women are too eager to try to force a commitment rather than just let it develop naturally. This forcing tends to drive people away, the same as if an overeager salesman tries to push you into committing to something, even when it’s something you may actually want, the pushing is off-putting.” – Age: 23
So, instead of just assuming all guys are commitment phobic, why not talk to your guy and find out how they feel about it. Their answer might just surprise you.
