Sex Mistake: He’ll love me for me, no matter how I look.
Posted on 12. Aug, 2010 by Chris in Archive, Sex
Surprise, surprise! Men do care how you look. Especially naked. We polled 1,000 men and asked them this question: Do you care how a woman’s body looks once you’ve seen her naked? Here’s what they said:
The guys weren’t even subtle about it. A resounding 71% said yes. Only 29% said no. But men on both sides had reasons they felt strongly about. Sure, many men provided the typical, superficial reasoning you might expect. Here’s a sampling:
“Yes, of course. Like it or not, how a woman looks naked partially determines how good the sex is. – Collin, single, age 32
“Yes, I’m very visual and a woman must look good naked.” –Jason, married, age 36
“Yes, because that first appearance can make or break a relationship in a sexual manner. The better the body the better the sex the better the relationship.” –Josh, married, age 21.
“Yes absolutely! If it’s a great body, I’ll be dreaming of it no matter if she’s wearing clothes, naked, or even not in the room!” –Matt, single, age 27.
While most men said a definitive ‘yes’, many had more concrete, intellectual reasons why they said so. We found this sampling the most interesting because of all of the justifications they had:
“Yes. Most men don’t operate with a ‘Seeing a woman naked one time is the end-all be-all’ mindset. Physical attraction–for both sexes–is a constant process. People age, gain/lose weight, etc. Plus, contrary to what women might think, not all men are simply on a quest to see as many naked women as possible. It’s not like we see a woman naked and think, ‘Ok, done with her, onto the next one.’”—Anthony, single, age 27
“Yes because I like a woman who takes care of herself or at least is showing an effort to take care of herself. She doesn’t necessarily need to have a coke bottle figure. As a matter of fact I like an average sized women with some nice hips and a nice butt. Breast size doesn’t matter to me. I like breasts in all shapes and sizes.”—Stephen, single, age 31
“Yes. A man always wants a woman to look good. Especially if they are together for a long period of time. If a woman lets herself go after a time it only makes the man wonder what else is out there.”—Dan, married, age 31.
There were also men that said no, it really didn’t matter to them. While they were definitely in the minority of opinion, they too had very valid reasons:
“I’m not sure if you mean “once the mystery has been revealed”, but it’s nice seeing someone you’re attracted without their clothes on. Nobody has a perfect body (almost nobody), so it doesn’t matter that much how they look. It’s a turn on before you see it and it’s still a turn on after you’ve seen it a hundred times.”—Mitch, single, age 41
“No. As the saying goes, beauty is only skin deep. What counts is the person, not the body.”—Mike, married, age 52.
So ladies, looks matter.
Yes, it’s unfair. Yes, it’s stereotypical. Men are simple creatures that are visual beings. (It’s the same simplicity that make them notice you in the first place.) Men preferring women that look good is not something that can be debated or ignored. It should be embraced and accommodated to the degree that you can. It’s akin to what men must embrace and accommodate for women.
Like the notion that lifting the toilet seat isn’t an option.
I need sex and need to see you naked
Ladies, both genders care how the other looks; the difference is that the attitude this article is about is a holdover from the days when how we looked was the ONLY thing that mattered about us. Back when we weren’t allowed to earn our own way. So it’s not gonna change until WE help change it. As long as we let men think of us this way, think of ourselves this way, and not require more of them, guess what?…they have no motive to change. And research shows (Allison Armstrong) that men actually rely on women to make them step up in many ways – they want a woman they can respect, someone who thinks of herself – and makes them think of her – as more than just how she looks. So yeah, this attitude is still around – the answer is to work together as women to require more of men vs. competing with each other in nasty ways (think of all the stupid shows about that). Everybody’ll be happier!